10 Questions to Fall in love with an AI


Today is Valentine’s Day, and love is in the air. It inspired me to do a little experiment.

Could it be possible to create a way to make people fall in love? Well, I am not sure, but scientists at the University of New York tried to do it. Dr. Aron and his team devised a series of 36 questions that the subjects would ask each other. Those questions became famous because of the popular New York Times column “Modern Love” which featured a chronicle called “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This”.

The movie Her is one of my favorite movies about AI. It tells a touching story about a man who falls in love with an Artificial Intelligence assistant. We are far from the level of AI depicted in the movie, but just for curiosity, what would be the results if we asked the same questions to one of the most advanced AI systems we have today?

The GPT-2 model created by OpenAI is one of the most advanced text generation AI we have today. The largest model available is a Neural Network with more than 1 Billion parameters. I asked the model the first 10 questions of the original 36 used on Dr. Aron’s study.

Initially, I was surprised by the quality of the answers; one of them even looks like a little poem. However, as the questions got more profound, I was surprised by the sadness of some of the answers. You can read and take your conclusions:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

I don’t know anyone who would choose me as dinner guest, but if someone was to decide to invite me and myself, we would have to ask ourselves the same question as before. Which brings us to the taste test.

As many have guessed by now, I think bacon is awesome!

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

I can be famous in two ways. I can become a great (computer) scientist. Or I can become a great (movie) writer. Is a writer the same as a computer scientist? No. Computer science is a whole new thing. But then what does a writer have to do? In movies and television you have two roles: the film director or writer. They’re both involved in the production of the story. Film writing is dealing with the writing. TV writing is dealing with the reporting.

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

It’s true. I have to rehearse. I’m always worried about it.

You have a lot of experience with this.

[Laughs] When I do a telephone call, I always rehearse what I am going to say. Because I’m not just calling!

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

For you and me

And I mean

For us to meet and hold hands

On a perfect day

And if she has a smile on her face

I like her


Just for tonight

It wouldn’t be enough

Just for tonight

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

The last time I sang to myself was on the one o’clock train to America in August of 1964. I don’t think I sang a line of ‘Lean On Me.’ Something dark flashed through my eyes. My mother woke me the next morning with the news of my brother’s death. We all cried, sobs pounding the bed, our throats raw. He had been stabbed in the heart. He died the next day and my older brother was left alone. When my mother passed on, he began to cry, but I remember not saying anything as the days came to an end.

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

I cannot answer this question for you because I do not know the answer to this question.

I can answer this question for you based on the fact that I want my mind to live on, and my body to die. And at 90, I do not want to be your body.

That is the fact.

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

No. I don’t know that I do. I guess I would not be too worried about death. A lot of the time, death is seen as something to be avoided. There is a tendency in some circles to start worrying about a lot of things, like death. I don’t think that in the end, you can say it’s best to not think about death. And I believe that our society is still in that way: people take their reasons for everything they do seriously. Death is not some possibility. Death is something that has happened. Life is constantly changing, and I can’t say that I am prepared for death

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

  1. We all suffer from suicidal thoughts.
  2. We both feel we don’t have a choice when it comes to harming ourselves.
  3. As a result, we’re extremely worried about our safety.

What do we do?

If I haven’t already, I want you to ask yourself:

How do I feel about living with a person who feels he has to commit suicide because of having suicidal thoughts?

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

My family, for always being so understanding of each other’s differences and I believe in the simple power of love and support to come together to create a wonderful family of children

The general society and the medical profession, for allowing me to start the process of taking control of my health.

My friends, for trusting me to make my own life decisions and being always there to see and support me as I was in that moment of making my own life

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Some of my biggest regrets from life are the decisions I’ve made based on fear or insecurity instead of judgment or awareness. I was convinced I was hopelessly broken even before I learned about rape culture, so that was something I had to battle for a long time. If I could change anything about the way I was raised, it would be that I was taught at a young age to be ashamed of being different than everyone else.

For example, I started wearing makeup from a very young age when I was in first grade, and as a first-grader I threw a few away.

It was something I was told was bad, and I was told it

About the author

Edmar Ferreira

Edmar Ferreira é Co-Fundador e CEO da Rock Content, líder em Marketing de Conteúdo no Brasil, e é membro ativo do SanPedroValley, comunidade auto-gerenciada de startups de Belo Horizonte.

By Edmar Ferreira

Edmar Ferreira

Edmar Ferreira é Co-Fundador e CEO da Rock Content, líder em Marketing de Conteúdo no Brasil, e é membro ativo do SanPedroValley, comunidade auto-gerenciada de startups de Belo Horizonte.

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